Hi, I’m Betty

AUTHENTICITY LIFE COACH, SPEAKER & FACILITATOR

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I help exhausted high-performers and first-gen entrepreneurs stop white-knuckling their way to success and build a life that actually feels like theirs.

I support my clients in building self-trust, making values-aligned decisions, and moving through transitions with more clarity and calm—not by fixing you or adding more to your plate, but by helping you listen inward, name what matters, and choose from a place that feels honest and sustainable.

As a recovering perfectionist and child of immigrants, I know what it’s like to succeed by adapting, overworking, and putting yourself last, and how disorienting it can be when those rules stop working.

Clients often tell me they feel seen, steadied, and less alone in our sessions. I bring honesty, heart, and a calming presence to the invisible work of letting go, showing up, and building a life on your own terms.

Outside of coaching, you’ll usually find me in the boxing ring, giving old furniture a second life, or patiently translating between generations at home.

Let's get to know each other

Finding wisdom in an uncomfortable journey.

For years, I did everything “right.”

I was a high-achieving daughter of Chinese-Burmese immigrants, checking all the boxes: good grades, steady job, leadership roles, respect from others.

By my early 30s, I had climbed the ladder bit I still felt lost. I wasn’t burned out because I couldn’t handle the pressure; I was burned out from pretending I didn’t have needs. I didn’t know who I was outside of being useful.

And like so many expert sufferers, I kept going: excelling, over-functioning, and quietly hoping fulfillment would catch up.

Coaching found me in a moment of unraveling. Instead of telling me what to fix, it gave me space to feel, reflect, and choose who I wanted to become. It gave me the permission to trade in my “I can’t” for “I am.” And that changed everything.

Now, I coach first-gens, quiet disruptors, and caring but exhausted leaders to stop shape-shifting and start showing up fully—at work, at home, and in their own story.

Share your story with me!

What I Stand For

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Wholeness

Honor your whole self: past, present, future

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Kintsugi

Embrace your mistakes as beautiful progress

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Find strength in connection with others

I believe that:

Authenticity is a liberation tool.

Under pressure isn’t the only way we grow.

Confidence is about being present, not perfect.

Anger and resentment are maps back to ourselves.

Love, worth, and belonging begin with how we treat ourselves.

Let's work together!

Credentials

    • Trained ontological coach with over 700 hours of coaching experience

    • Certified facilitator for workshops and retreats

    • Public speaker at US and UK conferences

    • Over 10 years’ experience in people development and project management at digital agencies and global mission-driven organizations

    • Accomplishment Coaching Graduate, International Coaching Federation (ICF) accredited program for ontological coaching

    • Certified Workshop Facilitator, High Tides Facilitation Certification Program for inclusive dialogue and discourse.

Find strength in softness,
power in flexibility,
perfection in mistakes,
success in failure,
clarity in confusion
and love in letting go.

— T A O T E C H I N G

Interviews

Listen to my select interviews on Spotify.

A woman with shoulder-length black hair and glasses, smiling, wearing a white tank top, standing against a yellow background with the text 'F*ck Saving Face with Judy Tsuei'.
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