Hi, I’m Betty Chan
Life Coach, Facilitator, Speaker
For the longest time, I looked forward to getting older. I thought, like many of us, that I'd have my life figured out by the time I turned thirty. Outwardly, I did. But in those quiet, late-night moments, I realized something harder to admit: I wasn’t happy because I'd never actually chosen any of this. Not the degree. Not the job. Not this version of "safe." I was just really good at following a plan that was never mine to begin with.
Realizing that I was following someone else's script changed everything. It forced me to stop living on autopilot—and if you've spent your life being the reliable one who gets things done without letting anyone see you unsure, you're in good company.
Today, I help my clients answer the exact question I had to face: What does it actually look like to want something for yourself, out loud, without earning permission first?
Answering that question is how we find our way to ourselves.
Finding My Way Home
As the daughter of Chinese-Burmese immigrants, I absorbed a definition of success before I ever got to form my own. This version involved building a life where my parents didn’t have to worry about me.
So I spent over a decade building a career that checked every box: titles, recognition, a six-figure salary. On paper, I'd made it. On the inside, I was quietly disappearing.
What shifted things wasn't a single dramatic moment. It was years of caring for my elders and seeing, up close, what it looks like when someone spends a lifetime inside a story that was never theirs.
That gave me a clear-eyed urgency: I didn't want to arrive at the end of my life still waiting for permission to be myself.
This is what I call authenticity as regret insurance, and it’s what I explore with my clients. What does it actually cost to keep living a borrowed story? And what becomes possible the moment you stop?
When we don’t slow down to answer those questions, we let someone else hold the pen to our story. Together, we bring clarity back to your life—so you can stop performing it and finally start living it.
What I Stand For
Authenticity
Honor all parts of you: past, present, future
Kintsugi
See beauty in mistakes and unexpected turns
Belonging
Cultivate spaces with dignity and safety
This is the lens I coach from. If you want to see what the actual work looks like, here’s my approach.
Things You’ll Catch Me Saying
“Success without self-connection is empty.”
“Quiet power is necessary for lasting change.”
“Confidence comes from understanding yourself, not doing more.”
“Under pressure isn't the only way we grow.”
“Love, worth & belonging begin with how we treat ourselves.”
“Frustration and resentment are forgotten maps back to ourselves.”
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Trained life coach with over 700 hours of coaching experience
Certified facilitator for workshops and retreats
Public speaker at US and UK conferences
Over 10 years’ experience in project management and motivating people through tough challenges at digital agencies and global mission-driven organizations
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Ontological Coaching Graduate, Accomplishment Coaching
(International Coaching Federation / ICF accredited program)Certified Workshop Facilitator, High Tides Facilitation Certification Program
(Specializing in inclusive dialogue and discourse)Functional Imagery Training (FIT) Graduate, Imagery Coaching
(Behavioral framework using motivational interviewing and multi-sensory visualization)
Credentials
Where I’ve Shown Up
