Hi, I’m Betty Chan

LIFE COACH. SPEAKER. FACILITATOR.

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I’m an authenticity coach supporting leaders and entrepreneurs who want to build success for themselves and their communities without losing themselves in the process.

Many of my clients arrive already capable, already accomplished, and still quietly wondering why it doesn't feel like enough. They've spent years learning how to fit in, work hard, and very little time learning how to hear themselves. That's not a personal failing. For a lot of us, it's just how we were raised.

In our work together, we slow down long enough to make sense of what's actually pulling at you: the decisions that feel harder than they should, the roles that no longer fit, the version of success that looks right from the outside but costs too much on the inside.

In my coaching, I’m not fixing you or handing you another system to follow. I'm here to help you trust what you already know.

Let's get to know each other
Let's get to know each other

A story about living up to my name.

For years, I did everything right.

As the only child of Chinese-Burmese immigrants, I followed the expected path: good grades, steady jobs, a leadership role, and the quiet pride of never being a burden. My parents named me 慧 ‘wai’ which means wisdom. I grew up knowing that. I just didn't know yet how long it would take to actually live it.

By my early 30s, I had built a ten-year career in project management and was leading a global department. From the outside, it looked like success. On the inside, I was deeply lost.

I couldn't tell you who I was outside of work, because that version of me barely existed. I had learned how to adapt, how to excel, how to make myself useful. What I hadn't learned was how to want something for myself, or how to step away when something wasn't working anymore.

So I kept going. Excelling, over-functioning, quietly waiting for fulfillment to show up. It didn't. What showed up instead was burnout, not just from the 50- to 70-hour weeks, but from years of denying what I actually wanted.

That's when coaching found me. For the first time, I was in a conversation that didn't tell me who to be or what to fix. It gave me permission to stop performing and start listening to my heart, my gut, and my feelings. To trade "I can't" for "I can" on things that actually mattered to me. That shift changed everything.

What I understand now is that the instincts many first-gens develop to survive—adapting, overworking, putting others first—are the same instincts that eventually work against us. They get us in the door. They just don't tell us what to do once we realize the room doesn't quite fit.

Authenticity isn't a soft concept. For those of us who learned to succeed by shrinking, it's the most practical tool there is. It's how you stop masking who you are and start building something that's makes room for all of you.

That's the work I do now with leaders, quiet disruptors, and first-gen entrepreneurs who are ready to stop performing their lives and start living them.

And honestly? It's how I finally started living up to my name.

Hear the story here
Hear the story here

What I Stand For

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Authenticity

Honor all parts of you: past, present, future

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Kintsugi

Embrace mistakes and unexpected turns as progress

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Belonging

Feel at home in the room and in yourself

I believe that:

Authenticity creates healing and reduces violence.

Success without self-connection is empty.

Under pressure isn’t the only way we grow.

Gentleness is an underrated skill and necessary for change.

Frustration and resentment are signals, not problems.

Confidence comes from understanding yourself, not doing more.

Love, worth, and belonging begin with how we treat ourselves.

Let's work together
Let's work together

Credentials

    • Trained ontological coach with over 700 hours of coaching experience

    • Certified facilitator for workshops and retreats

    • Public speaker at US and UK conferences

    • Over 10 years’ experience in people development and project management at digital agencies and global mission-driven organizations

    • Accomplishment Coaching Graduate, International Coaching Federation (ICF) accredited program for ontological coaching

    • Certified Workshop Facilitator, High Tides Facilitation Certification Program for inclusive dialogue and discourse.

Interviews

Listen to my select interviews on Spotify.

Turning Disappointment into a Record Quarter

What It Means To Be Yourself

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Entrepreneur Spotlight

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Embracing Imperfections

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Make Magic with Others

Being Yourself at Work